Raising a better flag


It's been too long friends. 

Where to begin? How about here?

No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.
— The Supreme Court

When I woke up to The Supreme Courts decision to legalize gay marriage in all 50 state's I was immediately overwhelmed by happiness towards all the gay people I know who have been waiting for this moment for so long as well as taken aback by how beautifully written the decision itself is. To see the hundreds of photos and videos of people cheering and dancing in the streets was good for my soul. The more I have fallen in love with my beautiful, brilliant girlfriend, the more I've come to appreciate what love means to others. To be denied the right to commit your life to the one you love because of one's sexual orientation is both confounding and hurtful. Those who say otherwise are blinded by either ignorance or hate. 

It's both ignorance and hate that have lead to far too many ugly headlines in the news in the past year and a half. That it took a mass killing in a church to get our partisan government together behind taking down the confederate flag in the South Carolina capital is crazy to me. That there are still people trying to defend what that flag "means to them" is even crazier. Just look at the KKK rallying around the South Carolina Statehouse in defense of the flag and be aware of who you are aligning yourself with when you open your mouth. 

There's a great dualism in this country when it comes to progress. In the course of just a couple of weeks we can see such heinous acts of hate followed by incredible moments of love and compassion. President Obama was on Marc Maron's podcast last week. During his interview he talked about how progress always seems so in the moment, because change takes time. We've been privy to this countries growing pains. The evils of racism and bigotry are not going away any time soon, but when enough people come together with love in their hearts we can start to move the pendulum in the right direction.